On a daily and weekly basis, most of our lives are scheduled out. Many us move from scheduled meeting to scheduled meeting throughout our days. It is not just work related meetings jamming our schedule, but meetings with friends, time to explore new opportunities, and other social activities that need to somehow get wedged into an already packed schedule. Our calendars, whether electronic or old school paper, are well structured to support coordinating our lives.
As we continue on our journey to build and strengthen our character, we all need the occasional reminder of the meetings that matter. Many times, these meetings are unscheduled and have an opportunity to occur almost daily in our homes.
We should all come to appreciate and respect that our homes come in all sorts and flavors, but the principles of the home remain intact as they are universal and timeless. Home is a place where we should feel safe, loved, and encouraged. In addition, we should be given the chance to take off the mask and be real while we learn and grow without shame or judgment.
The meetings that occur in the home are the meetings that matter. They occur in the kitchen, the garage, in the yard, in a messy bedroom, on the way out the door and in the early morning hours with someone struggling to sleep. For the most part, the meetings that matter never get on our calendar.
Day after day and year after year, it is the connections in the home that have the biggest impact on who we become. The positive impact from a solid home life is next to impossible to outsource.
As many of us try to get a little more time with family over the holidays, here are a few thoughts on making the most of the meetings that matter:
- Be intentional about treasuring the time together. Realize, in the moment, how special it is just to be together. Life, as “they” say, is short, but the reality is that face to face time with those we care about most is less than we can ever imagine when stacked up to the busy, “purposeful” lives we are all trying to lead.
- Reinforce to others about how special this time is so it can potentially “sink in” to those who may not be aware and may not care at this particular moment in time. It will be contagious for some now and maybe others later, but it is helpful to remind those we care about most how special time is together. It helps to remind others that they matter.
- When struggling to find time together, be kind and gentle, but determined, and force it on the schedule. Imagine the impact if we figured out how to spend some time each day, without electronic distractions, looking each other in the eye, being present, listening, learning, challenging, questioning, being questioned, and not judging?
As we become intentional about creating more meetings that matter in our homes, we will build and strengthen our character and Character Creates Opportunity® to live a purposeful life and reach our full potential.